Dancing With Your Skeletons In The Closet
Over a discussion recently someone said to me that everyone has “skeletons in the closet” but I disagreed. It took about a year for me personally but I faced my skeletons and cleaned out the closet. There is no better feeling in the world than making peace with your past and moving forward with a positive and clear state of mind.
Skeleton in the closet is an idiom used to describe an undisclosed fact about someone which, if revealed, would have a negative impact on perceptions of the person.
Clean out the closet so you can live a life of truth, honesty, forgiveness, and allow yourself to start over. In order to clean out the closet it’s a process that takes time.
- Figure out what your skeletons are
- What would have a negative impact on others perception of you if it were revealed
- Write it down
- Make Peace with each undisclosed fact by working through how you responded to a situation and what you can learn from it and grow from it and be a better you
- Some will be easier than others but one by one these giants will fall and your soul will be released because you will forgive yourself
I’ve spoken to a lot of older people over 60 who I respect and ask my favorite question: What advice would you give your 25 year old self?
The main synopsis was that throughout life you make mistakes and do things you wish you would have done differently. However, when asked if they would change anything they always responded with a no because if they changed or tweaked one thing they would not have experienced the wonderful blessings that they had received after it whether it was their grandchildren, children, or someone they loved. Always a person they loved.
Isn’t that beautiful? What can you learn from this?
I loved this viewpoint because it helped me realize that mistakes are not a bad thing. They’re good! It is only through our toughest moments in life that we truly grow and evolve and learn. Without mistakes we would stay in the same place, with the same state of mind, doing the same things. How boring. I love change. I embrace it.
Kiss your skeletons in the closet and be thankful for them. Each of them taught you something you needed to learn which got you to the place you are in right now. You will gain something positive from it whether you see it now or 10 years down the road. See each of them as stepping stones that lead you to your greatest self. The best is yet to come. Aging is a beautiful process because with each day, month, year, we learn something new about ourself that we didn’t know before. We grow. We change. We learn.
Who knows what beautiful blessings will come out of the next “mistake” but at least you are making them. At least you are living. At least you are evolving.
Life is what you make it. Go dance with your skeletons in the closet one by one and release them in gratitude. Thank the universe for the lessons learned from each and become what you want to see.
Peace & Love & Light To All