Archives

The Woman Who Endures Is Not the Model of Love

A collective teaching on self-abandonment, emotional provision, and the relational skills many of us were never taught Many of us inherited relationship models built for survival, not necessarily for intimacy. We watched women praised for how much they could endure and men praised for how much they could produce. One learned to derive worth from […]

Read More

Relational Physics

Stability that depends on one person overextending is not stability. It is delayed collapse. Overfunctioning is stabilized instability. It is like running a building on a backup generator full-time. The lights are on, but the generator is overheating. You become the shock absorber. The system looks calm because you are absorbing the impact. But the […]

Read More